Training Up a Lil' Hero

Devotionals from Leslie Ludy and the Set Apart Girl Team

Training Up a Lil' Hero

by Leslie Ludy | May 2, 2011

Last week Harper (age 4) decided that she wanted to kiss Hudson “on the lips” instead of just on the cheek. She proposed the idea as we were all eating breakfast. “Can I kiss Hudson on the lips?” she asked, her expression filled with childlike innocence. (After all, if Mommy and Daddy can kiss on the lips, why couldn’t she kiss Hudson that way?) Hudson (age 6) looked up from his food and thought about it for a minute. Then, he turned to Harper and said in a firm, somewhat patronizing tone, “Save it for your husband, Harper!” and went back to eating his toast. It was an absolutely hilarious moment that I will forever wish we had on film. Though Hudson was not necessarily tender or sensitive in his approach, we caught a glimpse of the “protector of purity” that we are training him to become in his sister’s life. Hudson doesn’t really yet know anything about sexuality or purity. However, he seems to have picked up on the fact that certain things are meant to be held sacred for marriage.

“I know you want to marry me, Harper,” he told her matter-of-factly a few minutes later. “But you can’t. You gotta find a different husband.” Hmmm. Not exactly the way I would recommend him speaking to the ladies, but still, even at this young age, he’s catching a vision for honor. This is encouraging, because as a parent you often wonder how much of your instruction your kids are actually catching. It’s easy to focus on all the areas in which they are falling short, all the things you still need to work on in your children’s lives and hearts. But I am finding that when they grow upon in an environment that protects honor and purity, they begin to think and reason from a standpoint of honor, even without specific teaching on the subject.

It has been a huge blessing to have our children spend time around Ellerslie students. They have seen young men treating women with respect; they have observed guys and girls protecting purity and guarding the sacred, and this reinforces what they hear and observe in our home.

Hudson doesn’t always treat Harper as a gentleman should. One moment he’s valiantly protecting her from rowdy kids on the playground, and the next he’s hitting her over the head with a plastic fire truck, demanding that she share her toys. We have a lot more gentleman training to do. But it’s encouraging to see little glimpses of honor emerging from his life – like exhorting Harper to save her first real kiss for her future husband – is inspiring. It’s given me renewed passion for training up a little hero; one who protects a woman’s purity instead of conquering it! Even at age six, there are opportunities to stand for femininity!*